Every once in a while, I run across something on social media that reminds me of why I still am active on it. Outside of my business, there is absolutely no reason for me to be on social media consistently. Especially Facebook. Most of my timeline is filled with drama and mess that drains me to no end.

Twitter is pretty cool because I get to talk like no one is listening, because, well, most times they aren’t, lol. I think IG is my current fave, though, even though I’m hardly on it. Mainly because it’s where people talk the LEAST.

Anyway, I was on IG and one of the people I follow (Ajna) posted something that struck me. It didn’t really hit me the day I saw it. Guess it had to marinate within my heart and mind for a while. It’s no secret that she openly admits to not being a nice person. Instead, she opts for being kind. I can agree with that. I’m not nice. I’m not friendly. I have a big heart, though, and I serve selflessly.

A couple of days ago she posted the definition of humble and in her caption explained why she was grounded instead of humble. Now I didn’t bother to read the caption because I was so blown away by the actual definition of humble. Still, it didn’t really stick with me then. Mainly because when I think about humble, I think about the Bible and how it says that we are to be humble.



That’s what I think of when I think about the word humble. I think about being modest. To be modest means: To be unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one’s abilities or achievements. So basically, the Bible is saying to have a moderate estimate/thought of yourself so God can lift you up. It tells us to think lowly of ourselves, and find our confidence in God, so he can exalt us.

Okay. Cool.

Stay with me here.

Here’s the definition of humble: having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance. Lower in dignity or importance.

And here are a few more: Not proud or arrogant. Submissive.

Here’s my problem: I have a hard time reaching my full potential while trying to be humble. It’s hard to promote my craft while trying to be humble. How am I supposed to confidently give my books or my self-love academy the marketing and promotion they deserve if I have a low self-esteem and feel as if everyone else dropping books or talking about self-love is better than me??? It has been hard to detach the first definition of humble from the second.

Do I want to not boast or be cocky and too proud? Most definitely! Do I want to be confident and know just how amazing I am? Absolutely! So how do I do both without losing my mind?

The key? Being grounded.

Here’s the definition of being grounded: well balanced and sensible. mentally and emotionally stable. admirably sensible, realistic, and unpretentious. remains grounded despite all the praise and attention. READ THAT LAST PART AGAIN.

Remains grounded despite all the praise and attention. Grounded = being humble. Not proud or arrogant.

If you’ve followed my blog for a while, you should know that I’ve struggled with this balance of humbleness and confidence for a while. Finally, I feel as if I have the proper foundation to properly promote my brand and reach the next level.

The focus shouldn’t be on being humble. No. If my book is the best I have to have the confidence to say that! If I don’t believe in my work… who will?? The focus must be on remaining grounded. Stable. Balanced. Realistic. Which will lead to humbleness. And by humbleness I mean lacking in pride or arrogance.

So I challenge you to check your attitude. Are you being humble or lacking self-esteem? We shouldn’t have to NOT reach our full potential, not give our all, not be confident, or not do our best for the sake of being humble. I choose instead to be the best version of myself, make a whole lot of money, and be happy while I do so because if I’m confident about anything… it’s that God didn’t create me to live a life of mediocrity, and I’m pretty sure that he didn’t intend for that to be the case with you either.

Live your best life. Unapologetically.

– B.

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