Okay, let’s just get right down to it.
Do you understand how important it is to love yourself?
To care for yourself?
To show yourself compassion?
To strive to become the best and highest version of yourself?
Well… do you???
This year is FLYING by. Man, time is flying by. I’m so passionate about emptying myself before I die. Hopefully that’s like…. 70 years from now 🙂 … but I’m starting to put weight on things that I’ve overlooked in the past. Like those other areas of my purpose that I’ve been holding off on because I was like, that’s not a necessity right now. I’ll get to it later.
Nah. For what? Do it now.
You put something off for a day and it turns into six months. Six months turn into five years. And before you know it… you’ve walked off the path of your purpose. Why? Because you procrastinated. Procrastination is like… dangling a carrot in front of a horse. But instead of making a horse go where you want… procrastination leads you somewhere you don’t need to be! It’s the ULTIMATE yet most subtle form of distraction and defeat. <- Reread that last part.
So what does this have to do with self-love?
Self-Love is REQUIRED for ANYONE who CHOOSES to walk in their purpose.
When you lack self-love, you don’t just lack self-love.
First of all, what is the opposite of love? Hate. So if you don’t love yourself how exactly do you think you feel about yourself? Is hate too strong of a word for you? Would it make you feel better if I said you dislike or loathe certain things about yourself? Or if I said you were just… okay with yourself and life instead of being your number one fan? Or if I said you were more dissatisfied with yourself and your life instead of being proud? Are those easier to stomach? Truth of the matter is – if it isn’t love… it’s hate or indifference. If it’s hate negative thoughts and beliefs come along with it. And if it’s indifference you become stagnant with no desire to grow and become better. You don’t put forth the effort to uplift yourself. You wait for others to. And if they don’t… you remain in the same position you’re complaining about.
You also lack confidence in yourself. You won’t feel good about yourself. And if you don’t feel good about yourself, you won’t be passionate about your unique passions, talents and gifts that were deposited into you to share with the world. If you don’t feel good about yourself, it won’t matter how successful you are – you will never be able to recognize and appreciate it.
You also lack self-worth. If you don’t practice self-love, you will feel worthless. As if, in comparison to someone else, you are worth less. You will have a mentality of self-woe and pity. You won’t be able to accept compliments and love because you’ll have on blinders that make it difficult to see the good that others see in you.
You also lack a shell. I consider myself a turtle. Hard on the outside and soft on the inside. When you don’t love yourself, you are overly sensitive. You will take criticism far too personally. Not only will you take criticism too personally, but if someone else is having their own issues, demons or bad days… you will allow their problems to be a reflection of your self-worth. If they’re angry and in a bad mood you will feel responsible. You will consistently attract rejection, criticism and ill feelings because you’re taking everything personally. Your mind is LOOKING for things to confirm that lack of self-love within you.
You also lack the backbone needed to not be a people pleaser. If you don’t practice self-love you won’t think anything you say or do is good enough on its own merit, so you’ll spend a great deal of time trying to please others so THEY can love, respect and appreciate YOU.
Last but certainly not least, you also lack drive. Hustle. Ambition. If you lack self-love you let opportunities pass you by. If you lack self-confidence you will doubt yourself, your gifts, talents, callings and abilities. Because of this, when opportunities present themselves, you will turn them down out of fear of not being good enough.
Sheesh. This blog post is a lot longer than I thought it would be, lol. But we gon’ roll with it!
So, if you lack self-love you also…
You let opportunities pass you by.
You become overly sensitive.
You won’t feel as if you’re good enough.
You begin to hate yourself or feel indifferent towards yourself and your life.
You will feel worthless.
You will always try to please others.
How can you fulfill your purpose and do what you were created to do if you’re consistently turning down opportunities?
How can you become a titan at what you were called to do if you are so sensitive that you can’t take constructive criticism?
How can you dominate the lane that was specifically created for you and your purpose if you don’t feel as if you’re good enough to walk it?
How can you shine your light for others to see if you’re indifferent about the blown bulb that’s hovering over you? That’s keeping others from seeing your greatness?
How can you feed the lives of others when you don’t even value yourself enough to look in the mirror and say, “I’m worthy of love and respect,”?
How can you be satisfied with yourself when you consistently seek the approval of everyone else?
Self-Love isn’t just about you, boo. There’s a whole world… or maybe even just your family… that needs to be inspired by you. By your purpose. Loved by you. Lifted up by you. Influenced by you. I don’t care how small or how big… we ALL were created with a purpose. Whether your purpose revolves around you helping those in your home, your church, your community or around the world… PEOPLE ARE DEPENDING ON YOUR PURPOSE.
DO NOT allow a lack of self-love to keep you from your purpose. DO NOT allow that procrastination to keep you from your purpose. DO NOT. DO NOT. DO NOT.
We out here waiting for you.
Get it together, Beloved.
If you need help I am here for you. I am not the unparalleled self-love teacher for nothing. I have a few books and a class already on my site that can help you, and there will be more to come. If you haven’t already signed up to follow my blog do so. The first looks into my self-love and womanhood classes and books will ALWAYS be here.